notes Jan 24

Splitting : I am all good or all bad

PROJECTION – attributing your feelings to another person

Projective identification is a term introduced by Melanie Klein to describe the process whereby in a close relationship, as between mother and child, lovers, or therapist and patient, parts of the self may in unconscious fantasy be thought of as being forced into the other person.

RIGHT BRAIN to RIGHT BRAIN communication. What images are you seeing?

( Story of client saying “you look really tired” then tells story of how tired the client is. client is projecting feelings on the therapist)

People peel off the part of themselves they have a hard time with and then “place” them on someone else. What happens is then the feelings they are afraid of are evoked so the person can sort them, feel them and reintegrate.

— this is the article she wrote – – –

When talking to someone who is projecting : you are viscerally feeling what the client is feeling now and has felt before.


  • you are turned on to the client

you are feeling angry ( are you having a bad day or is this an “alien feeling”                                                     How to be a Space Invader …

what to do when someone is projecting on to you

  1. Hold it and contain it : use it to get information on the client
  2. Act it out
  3. be aware that sometimes people ACT OUT because they have run out of words

—————— HANDOUT

Case #1 he is replicating his parents criticism

Case #2  she bounces between states and does not remember his cruelty when she is happy.

Approach “I am glad he called you. Do you remember last week when he ___”





Kohut was from Vienna and saw a bunch of folks not healing using Freud, so he developed “Empathic Introspection” where he tried to see the world from the client point of view.

Aggression and Sex problems are symptoms of un met needs

Image result for tragic man vs guilty man

Theory of the self . . .

3 needs that emerge all the time and are invested int The poles – PATHWAYS TO DEVELOPMENT

MIRRORING – to see the twinkle in the mom’s eyes. he gets his self image from the parents reaction

IDEALIZING – to idealize someone bigger and stronger than you… to be held and carried by omnipotent object

TWINSHIP – to find someone who is just like us and our needs

SELF OBJECTS – “It was further developed in The Analysis of the Self (1971) in Kohut’s reconceptualization of narcissism. It refers to a normal narcissistic function that evolves in stages. The selfobject can be the object of a fixation that is the basis for a narcissistic transference.”

_________ The Mirroring POLE—-

Grandiose Pole to see the Twinkle in Mom’s eye

Idealizing Pole – to be held and carried by an omnipotent object

Twinship Pole – to feel worthwhile among others


Primary and Pathological

SYNDROMES OF SELF – not getting good mirroring

%d bloggers like this: