Splitting : I am all good or all bad
PROJECTION – attributing your feelings to another person
Projective identification is a term introduced by Melanie Klein to describe the process whereby in a close relationship, as between mother and child, lovers, or therapist and patient, parts of the self may in unconscious fantasy be thought of as being forced into the other person.
RIGHT BRAIN to RIGHT BRAIN communication. What images are you seeing?
( Story of client saying “you look really tired” then tells story of how tired the client is. client is projecting feelings on the therapist)
People peel off the part of themselves they have a hard time with and then “place” them on someone else. What happens is then the feelings they are afraid of are evoked so the person can sort them, feel them and reintegrate.
When talking to someone who is projecting : you are viscerally feeling what the client is feeling now and has felt before.
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF IT IS YOU – or if it is PROJECTION
- you are turned on to the client
you are feeling angry ( are you having a bad day or is this an “alien feeling” How to be a Space Invader …
what to do when someone is projecting on to you
- Hold it and contain it : use it to get information on the client
- Act it out
- be aware that sometimes people ACT OUT because they have run out of words
Case #1 he is replicating his parents criticism
Case #2 she bounces between states and does not remember his cruelty when she is happy.
Approach “I am glad he called you. Do you remember last week when he ___”
Kohut was from Vienna and saw a bunch of folks not healing using Freud, so he developed “Empathic Introspection” where he tried to see the world from the client point of view.
Aggression and Sex problems are symptoms of un met needs
Theory of the self . . .
3 needs that emerge all the time and are invested int The poles – PATHWAYS TO DEVELOPMENT
MIRRORING – to see the twinkle in the mom’s eyes. he gets his self image from the parents reaction
IDEALIZING – to idealize someone bigger and stronger than you… to be held and carried by omnipotent object
TWINSHIP – to find someone who is just like us and our needs
SELF OBJECTS – “It was further developed in The Analysis of the Self (1971) in Kohut’s reconceptualization of narcissism. It refers to a normal narcissistic function that evolves in stages. The selfobject can be the object of a fixation that is the basis for a narcissistic transference.”
_________ The Mirroring POLE—-
Grandiose Pole to see the Twinkle in Mom’s eye
Idealizing Pole – to be held and carried by an omnipotent object
Twinship Pole – to feel worthwhile among others
DISORDERS of the SELF
Primary and Pathological
SYNDROMES OF SELF – not getting good mirroring