Category Archives: Social Work

Today in the GAIN office has been good

So far, so good.

Today has brought in a steady stream of clients reporting earnings and brandishing paychecks. Also at my desk I had a young man come in just to ask if he could continue to volunteer at the location he used to do Community Service for GAIN at; even though it isn’t a GAIN activity for him any more.  Sweet. 

Then there was the mother of a little boy . She brought her son in because he is attached to an oxygen tank and shw can’t find a day care provider to watch him – but she desperately wants to earn her High School Diploma. Don’t worry ; I will find a way to make that happen for her.

I have been using a bottle of hand sanitizer a week : on my hands, phones, and to clean my desk. It turns out that hand sanitizer is great for cleaning up the drawings I do in marker on my desk. Cool. None of that has prevented me from coughing and sneezing all day.

About 10 feet away, someone is moving into my old cubicle and it sounds like he found my secret stash of vases and Diet Coke. Okay, it sounds like the stash fell on him. Oppsie: sorry Hardie.

We are making big and small changes here and overall it is a positive experience …. heck, the phone is ringing

This blog is almost 7 years old

It started in a Las Vegas hotel room, the day after my 34th birthday. I was with Leslie, Bonnie, and Isabel and discussing my job in the “dodgie” part of town aka LA’s skid Row. I had made friends with a wonderful man, Mike, who had a blog and worked for Microsoft. He encouraged me to try out this Blogging thing he was doing and let me read his Robert Scoble book “Naked Conversations”.

Being from Arcadia CA, there was not a lot of information on poverty and homelessness handed out. I knew some of my friends came from insanely rich families, and some lived in “cracker box” apartments – and none of that really mattered to any of us. Of course, I have always been out of touch with the most basic of facts and it wasn’t until a few years ago that it occurred to me that Amanda Sanchez, a childhood friend, is probably Hispanic. Who knew? Well, presumably she and her family did, but it didn’t matter.

When I started doing Social Work I was just so glad to have a job that it took me a while to wonder why I worked in a Social Service agency ( Santa Anita Family Service) where a homeless man lived in the parking lot but no one was offering him help. Eventually I realised that there was not much help to be had.

It is beyond ridiculous that we have homeless citizens. It is frustrating that there are not enough jobs, and it angers me that I have people who could work: but it doesn’t fit into their schedule.

This is my place to explain to you everything I want you to know. What is homelessness.
How Homelessness can be ended.
Why I am cranky all the time (this is some stressful stuff)
What I really like about this area
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New or old, thanks for hanging in with me

-Sonya

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Homeless Case Manager or Jerk…

Homeless case manager

I was a self-righteous fool when I started out as a Case Manager on Skid Row

Well, actually, the first thing I was involved knocking out a Schizophrenic man cold –and then I was a fool. See, my baby brother is 6’4” and has a mental illness. So, when a tall man is out of control and lunges for me, I instinctively swing for the fences and punch him in the face. It is rude, but highly effective. No one expects the short, fat, white girl to punch like a champion. No one expects her to have worked with Hal Espy either… At any rate, after the first day when I punched out Sean, I kind of thought I was God’s gift to The LAMP Lodge. I thought I was going to sachet in there with my BA degree under my arm and personally deliver 50 people off of the streets of Skid Row and into suburbia. I was going to motivate, inspire, and teach them to become productive citizens and tune their hearing so they could hear their calling. Yep – I was a fool.

What the residents of The Lodge saw when I walked in the door was some free entertainment. They would gather in the front office and just wait for 9 am to roll around and for me to drive up and start the shenanigans.

Billy Blade and Will Smith are the two most influential people I met on Skid Row. Granted, I have hero-worship for Molley Lowrey and Arianna and Celina and even John Best… but no one taught me more about appreciating the honest truth of who a person really is than these two men who were diametrically different and yet lived on the same floor of a converted motel at the corner of 7th and Stanford.

Will has a history in law. He immediately put me in my place for asking for his “buy on” and signatures on case management forms. He was a tenant with a rental agreement to the building and under no obligation to entertain the foolish notion that he was compelled to attend group meetings, have one on one sit downs where he plotted goals and measured success. Will was happy with his efficiency bachelor pad and had easy access to the busses and trainings and outside influences and did not need to be bothered by some little girl pushing a social workers’ agenda. How dare I look at him and decide that he needed to change. Why did I think there needed to be an improvement in his situation?

Billy leaned against the building and each morning as I walked past him to get up the stairs he mumbled “A$$h0le”. Eventually I stopped to ask him why he did that instead of stopping me and telling me to my face. He pointed out that I walked past him, signed in and then would speak to him – like he was a work produce and not like he was a person. Anyone who did not value him as a man was an …, well, you know.

Eventually, I did become a good case manager. I did extend and improve the lives of the men and women who lived in The LAMP Lodge and in LAMP Community. But it was a learning process. I was fortunate to have a thoughtful and caring supervisor, John, who was patient and instructive, but mostly it was the residents who constantly reminded me that they were individuals who are valuable. Some of them are still my FaceBook friends.

I am probably still a pompous fool, but I keep pictures of my days on Skid Row up in my office to remind me that there is always room for human dignity – and it comes from the client, not from me.

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Wicked Witch of the Welfare Office

 ImageUsually I feel pretty good about my job. Today I am disenchanted. I had an imaginary conversation with myself.

I am the evil witch lurking…ahem…working in the welfare office.

My Inner Angry Republican pitches a fit about 50 times a day. And with good reason too.  But my out Professional Social Worker tries to seek better solutions and keep it all in check.

Money for nothing?! Not really – you have to work (or prepare for work) to be granted cash aid
But if the parents don’t work the family still gets money True – but we choose to believe the parents are not spending any cash aid on themselves and only on their children
You are on crack, right? At least tell me you are screening the welfare peeps for drugs. No. We don’t test the parents – but we do ask them 7 questions to screen them for substance use and abuse
Then you take their money away, right? Of course not. We schedule them for a Clinical Assessment and chose to believe they are not buying beer, weed, crack, coke, schrooms, uppers, downers, etc . We need to believe these drugs are DONATED to them.
Why do you believe that? Because a habit is expensive, if they could afford a strong heavy habit – they don’t need Welfare funds and we would have to cut them off
What’s bad about that? Because we know they are not magically “finding” the money and we sleep better knowing the money has at least made it into a parent’s hands and there is a chance that it is being spent on the family
Do you require receipts for how the cash aid money was spent No
Why not? Too much trouble
Don’t you believe that if people were accountable for how the money was spent, they would spend it on toothbrushes and rent etc and not on cat food, veterinary bills, drugs, strip clubs and gambling Did I tell you about the time I did ask for receipts and the person bought job interview clothes at Caesar’s Palace Shops?
Why did you ask for receipts that time? Well, because GAIN  – or Welfare to Work gives money for job clothing, school books etc.
Oh, so there is some accountability. How does that work out? One time a lady bought 7 pairs of shoes as her work clothing.
What, was she a stripper? Many of my clients are strippers or in elicit but legal trades. I give them credit for making the effort.
So you encourage this activity? I encourage work of any kind. They need to do 32-35 hours of work type activity a week.
Why only 35? I do at least 40 hours of work and 20 hours of volunteering and have up to 4 kids in my house. I don’t know. At 32 hours an employer is supposed to be offering benefits like health care so families can leave Medi-Cal Insurance.
What if they don’t want to work or train, etc? Then they can say they have mental health or substance abuse or domestic violence issues or are homeless and the requirement for these hours can be waived temporarily or permanently.
Are you serious? Of course, It is the compassionate thing to do. If someone is so stressed or overwhelmed that they really cannot function in society; I don’t want to set them up for failure
So you take their children away, right? Why would we? We take a licensed professionals word – or sometimes the client tells us – that this person cannot work or go to school or do community service. What does that have to do with parenting?
Well, a 40 hour a week job is easier than 24/7 parenting. Never the less. We trust that these parents are doing what is best for the children.
Does Welfare really look out for the WELFARE of kids. Kinda,. Sorta. We make food funds and cash aid and medical funding available to the family and trust they are being accessed on behalf and for the benefit of the kids.
That’s it? Also, we ask that once a year a report card or immunization card is turned in. See, we care.
But there is a time limit on this, right? Bill Clinton put a time limit. Yes, the Federal Time Limit is 5 years or 60 months of Cash aid per family
Whey. At least that is clear and simple But some people stay on Cash Aid from the 7th month of pregnancy until their child is 18 years old.
WTF? Or until the baby graduated from High School. 
How can you stay on Welfare for over 18 years Easy. Say you were in a domestic violence relationship. Or that you are too emotionally disturbed to hold down a job or really benefit from the program. How can we push you out of the nest?
OMG Oh, my goodness indeed. See me? I am saving the world over here.
Do you really feel like that? Of course.
You’re sick. No. no fever, I feel fine. Thanks for the concern.
How are you really helping them? I am not. I make sure they have the resources to help themselves. Poverty sucks. People will move on  at their own pace. All I can do is offer options.
Like what? I will pay for child care so they can work, or I pay for books, fees and supplies for vocational training or college.
Vocational Training? Sure – you know, so people can be hair dressers and such
Very few hair dressers live far above the poverty line and there are no medical, dental, vision or life benefits with that position usually Well, then I hope each of them is the next Vidal Sassoon or Jose’ etc. I realy can’t be bothered to make sure it will make them rich or middle class. I just want to say I have “X number of clients participating” and then hope they can keep their heads above water off Welfare.
Seriously? Seriously.
Why didn‘t I hear that you pay tuition? Are they required to use their cash aid for tuition? No. The tuition at a public Community College will be waived and Federal or other financial aid will cover it at other types of schools.
When I went to school, I paid Tuition Well, you should have had a child an not been able to afford it.
Speaking of that… when new children come into the family – what happens? Usually the Medi-Cal and Food stamps increase but not the cash aid. After all – birth control is free on Medi-Cal.
Did you say “usually”? Well yes,. Some children are exempt from the Maximum Family Grant.
Meaning they qualify for raising the family cash aid amount Sure, if they show proof they were on long term birth control like a shot or IUD – or they can say they were raped and then we take their word and cover the baby as well.
OMG I know. Aren’t we nice? And – we have thousands of families leaving welfare each year.
How many of them leave before their time limits are up?How many stay on despite the time limits

How many are forced off or “timed out”?

I don’t know. But aren’t I nice?

 

 

 

 

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What it Looks like Homeless Service Assistance Agencies are Doing

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Agencies are always talking about statistics and numbers and how great the burden is. We are never told about how the numbers are counted. If I walk through the door twice – am I counted as 1 person or 2?

There are wonderful agencies and programs who actively serve as many people as possible and cross direct clients so they may have the best services and shortest time in poverty possible.

I think that the number we should be hearing about is the number of people moved to a point where they no linger need the services offered by the agency. I want a Success Rate – not a Service Number.

“But , it’s hard. You don’t understand how hard!”

ImageThis, without exception, if the most irritating excuse I hear about why someone has not tried to improve their life or that of their children.

Imagine:

Dora, the shortest of all social workers, just had a very loud conversation with a woman who has been “going to enroll in adult school to learn to read and write” for 2 years. However, she thinks it may conflict with the schedule she would like to have in cosmetology school so she has never enrolled in either. Meanwhile the Dept. of Children Services is telling her that she has to go through mental health therapy, but she thinks it is “too hard” to make it to the appointment.

Says Dora: “Life is hard. Maybe you don’t understand that, but it is. It is hard to raise children, it is hard without children. It is hard to look for a job; it is hard to maintain stable and meaningful employment. Everything is hard. That is just how it is. You are choosing to think that HARD means MISERABLE and you are trying to avoid it.”

My thoughts ….

  1. Cosmetology is a difficult trade and the study of it requires a fair amount of math and science. I honestly have not met any dumb hairdressers. My hair guy Denny (of The Yellow Balloon in Arcadia) is brilliant and dedicated and works long hours standing on his feet.  – I don’t think this young mother can be a Cosmetologist.  
  2. OMG- STOP WHINING! Is this what you have taught your kids to do in the face of adversity; to whine? Somewhere in my life a family member used to tell me, “come here and cry and I will give you something to cry about.”
  3. This is the Welfare recipient that the public identifies as draining resources and sponging off the system. Because, by the way, she is.  Nice job as ambassador, right?
  4. Get a simple job that does not require literacy: Push a broom, clean, wash dishes, etc…  Take a job in the service industry and earn while you learn.
  5. Go to Adult school on the side.
  6. Be responsible for yourself and own your decisions – even when your decision is to do absolutely nothing. And then be aware of the consequences of your choices. In this situation, the consequence is that you may lose your children. If you lose your children you will also lose your meal ticket, food stamps, Medi-CAL, and cash aid.
  7. Parenting my own children was never this frustrating. Changing the attitude and behaviors of adults from my limited role is anguish.
  8. How many minutes would it take for me to be fired if I walked over there and said “Get over yourself !”? Yep. I will just sit here and write this while I collect my voice messages.

Not all people are like this. Thankfully, most of the folks we help are willing, motivated and have their own hustle on that we support. “Good things come to he who hustles”. It is true.

By now, in this fictitious scenario, Dora has stopped talking and the volume level is normal again so I can make phone calls.

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You have a child; that means your uterus works. It does not mean your brain quit!

  Parenting vs Case Management. Am I am a professional parent. 

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This morning I had the talk about dreams, futures, and completing highschool at least 5 times. I am sure that the coworkers who sit near me can give the lecture by heart.

“People still ask me what I want to do with my life. I think they are trying to rub it in my face that now I can’t do nothing”

“Do anything, the phrase is ‘do anything’ , and because you don’t know that – I declare you need to complete highschool!”

When did Motherhood become a life sentence in the Poor House? Being a mother means guidance and providing for your children ; ideally in concert with the father.

“I don’t want to put him on Child Support because I don’t want him or his family to think I need them.”

“Lady, you went to the County and asked for cash each month. You need someone and that someone should be HIM and not the County. Now the County is going to start a Child Support case and repay themselves the amount of Cash Aid you are awarded for yourself and son every month.”

I saw the bumper sticker “The County is Not Your Baby’s Daddy”. I like and loathe it.

On one hand, I see many parents (normally the mom) who don’t want to work or go to school or do anything other than stay home with their children and not work. they have always had the fantasy of being a stay at home mom and at all cost (to anyone but themselves) they want to live that out. They are indignant when they are asked to turn in receipts for clothes and books. Also, they scream when their cash grant is reduced because they did not work on leaving welfare.

On the other hand, I see parents (usually fathers) who feel that the County will pay health insurance and dental care and provide funds for food and funds for rent, etc so they don’t need to support their child – emotionally, financially or physically. To them, they made the baby but the County should act as Daddy and provide while they forget the child and any responsibility owed there to.

Case Management feels so much like parenting when I am explaining the real world and responsibilities to parents who don’t understand the social contract that we all abide by – and somehow missed the regulations and contract they signed in the Cash Aid office that said they would do all that they could to become self-sufficient.

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Questionable Parenting Moments and DCFS

This week is filled with thoughts about parenting.

When I was a kid I waffled between not wanting any children and wanted to have 12 (and then name them after the disciples :I was a closet mini-Bible-Thumper )

Having Jackie was a shock and I was fairly young, Darla was also not planned and both of them are joys. When Jax was a baby I used to wonder where her parents were and why they were late picking her up. Then it would hit me that “I” was her parent. My kid brother is 10 years younger than I;  and I was a nanny while in college, and for no apparent reason – babies and little kids like me. So do ugly men, old men and all canine dogs. Jax I raised alone and for Darla I am trying to keep her two parent family in tact, but frankly, I don’t see why or that it is much easier than doing it alone. Certainly the drama is not attractive. 

This week’s drama involved the county Child and Family Services threatening to remove Darla if they find anything wrong in the home of my friend’s kids. Are you kidding me? I can not win for losing! I am not sure what is happening with them – but because it would severely complicate my life, relationships with their parents, and the kids  I have not opened that can of worms.  I have, however spoken a parent and discussed any and every concern I have had. No, this did NOT make me a popular family friend and almost ended my friendship all together. 

A long time ago we had Mandated Reporter training here in the office and I was told that I have to report on ANY child, ANYWHERE or I face prison and a fine. Well, that sounded ominous so I called DCFS and they said that I would be excused for not reporting if I ever had Bonus Kid concerns specifically because it would complicate my life.

So, why is it that a DCFS worker told me that my Mandated Reporting ended when I walked out of the office at work? She went on to say that if DCFS finds anything wrong with my friend’s children they would take Darla because I didn’t do anything, didn’t say anything, didn’t keep the kids from going home, even if I didn’t know anything?  The worker did not ask me if I have any concerns, or say there was any basis to anything, or even tell me what the issue with those children might be. She just straight up told me that she would remove Darla if she finds anything.

So – what is the message? I have to report every little concern and be a nuisance or I don’t have to do anything.

Oh, and personal side note, you get one guess who is being blamed/credited/accused for the appearance of D.C..S. .

Meanwhile, at work I pulled a baby bottle of sweet ice tea out of the mouth of a 3 month old. Teen mom and teen dad thought baby would like it because she had tummy problems. I told them to talk to the WIC lady and call the family doctor because their health care is provided for free. This was at the same table I have pulled narcotics out of a toddler and in the same office I have called DCFS when my walk to 7-11 resulted in passing by a car filled with children unattended on a hot summer day. 17 year old girls are telling me the planned to have that first baby at 14 and want 4 kids by the time they turn 21.I have families living in boxes, in cars, in tents in the local forests and parks and when some of the children come to my office I just let them raid my snack drawer because I know they didn’t eat anything that day.

I am starting to wonder if children deserve parents who are given basic skills classes when pregnancy is diagnosed. Maybe, like the Swiss all have to serve in the Swiss army for two years and Mormons all have to go on Missions, maybe all American children should have mandatory parenting classes as part of sex ed in junior high-school so they are pre-armed with the skills they need if and when they have children.

Children are more important than ‘the love of your life”. Your children are more important than your girlfriend, boyfriend, parent, husband, fiance, or wife. Being a good parent is more important than shopping, eating, travel or success in business.

Being a good parent means being aware of your child. Knowing and responding when they are hungry, needing bathing, clothing or a nap. Being a good parent means BEING THERE, being present in their lives at all points in their life. Being a good parent means having a personal relationship with your child so you know them as an individual. Sometimes being a good parent means recognizing that you can’t or don’t want to do all these things and letting someone else parent your child.

But, what do I know. Apparently I am just someone that a DCFS worker who didn’t give a business card or last name can threaten to walk out of my home with my 1 year old because I pulled a “Joe Paterno” and did not complain enough if I had any concerns.

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Poverty = Women’s Issue

poverty is a women's issue

Not all women are poor, but most of the world’s poor are women. Most of the poor in Los Angeles are women. When you think about Welfare, admit it, your brain says “Welfare Mom”, not Welfare Dad, or Welfare Family.

When I am handed a stack of cases (and lately I could build cities with the files I am handed)I expect them to have the name of a woman on them.

75% of women living below the poverty line do not have children.

Why? We all know why.

Women have unpaid times in their lives to care for our elderly and our young much more often than men do.

Women are more likely to take on the financial obligations of raising children is there is only one custodial parent.

Women who work all year still earn just 77% of what their male counterparts do.

“Women’s Work” aka “Pink Color” jobs are lower paying: school teacher, social worker (tell me about that one!), nurse, caregiver, hairdresser etc. these jobs also leave women with fewer routes to pensions and retirement dollars.

Women drop out of school younger, and have less education than men.

Women who leave marriage often walk right into poverty.

Poverty is a Human Rights issue. Poverty happens to women more than men – at every single age group breakdown. Poverty is a Women’s Rights issue. Women are entitled to Human Rights standards of living.

 The more educated women are, the better their human rights are .

I never thought I would be a feminist, or Femi-Nazi . . . but this seems really very wrong.

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?

 ♥♥read more
http://www.pdhre.org/rights/women_and_poverty.html
Poverty among the Elderly Is a Women’s Issue
The Straight Facts on Women in Poverty
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The History of Social Security is Making Me Mad

And if you are not white, or have ovaries: you should be mad too. I have decided.

I am on my break in the welfare office and listening to coworkers debate Welfare vs Social security  vs SSI. At this point it occurs to me that I hear these other terms a lot in political debates and on the news but I am not very clear on what they are, how they work, or what they mean to me.

What Social security has meant to me so far

Every January I get the cool green fold-out form Social Security assuring me that I have worked enough to become disabled and get money from my government. In March I had the discussion at the Social Security office about why my daughter’s birth certificate and health insurance card were not enough proof for her to receive a Social Security number (and oh ya, she was there with me. I promise, I did not make her up for tax purposes).

I knew it came out of THE NEW DEAL and it was supposed to be some life saving, economy boosting program. Incidentally, just after it was enacted we had a recession. You go figure that one out.  But What it is, who it is for… I don’t know. So I did what I love to do- I read.

Why I am MAD

From the start  jobs that would be performed by women or people of color were put on the Social Security denial list: agricultural labor, domestic service (house keepers, nannies, driver’s), government employees, and many teachers, nurses, hospital employees, librarians, and social workers (hey! that’s me!). NAACP called Social Security ““a sieve with holes just big enough for the majority of Negroes to fall through.”

Women typically could only qualify based on their husbands or children, and to do that: they had to stay home and not work. Apparently all the women going into the workforce were stealing jobs from men. Women were not allowed to collect benefits as mothers and at the same time be workers because they were supposed to stay home and be dependant on their men.

At varies points in the program history there have been attempts to even things out, but women continue to be classified as wives and not workers – even if they paid into the social Security System. If her benefit was less than 50% of his, she wasn’t counted as a worker, just a wife.

Social Security called itself FAMILY PROTECTION and did not treat bastard children or unwed mothers or women the same as it did the men. Social Security gave birth to AFDC and SSI.

SSI just freaks me out.

Did you know you can get SSI even if you are blind for a day or less?  “for SSI purposes, an individual is considered blind regardless of the period of time they are expected to be blind or if they are performing substantial gainful activity”. Oh, and you can have a job, be earning money and STILL get SSI.Is the same true if you are deaf? No. Have lost a limb? No.

I really think that if you could work, and you would be hired if you applied: No SSI for you! “The 1967 amendments specified that workers shall be determined to be under a disability only if the physical or mental impairment or impairments are of such severity that the individual is not only unable to do his previous work but cannot, considering his age, education, and work experience, engage in any other kind of substantial gainful work which exists in the national economy. This is regardless of whether any of these are true:

  • Such work exists in the immediate area in which the claimant lives.
  • A specific job vacancy exists.
  • The claimant would be hired if they applied for work.”

Are you kidding me? Go to work, go to work, go to work and pay into the system you want paying out to you.

And if you find yourself unable to work, THEN go on S.S.I.. Use the Ticket to Work program.

The part of SSI that makes me the most angry is that you can come to America and NEVER WORK A DAY or pay into our Social security system but be a qualified alien or become a citizen and then collect SSI (but teachers who have worked in the US can not).

And, secret bonus perk… be an immigrant from Russia, collect Social Security benefits and go to the Russian consulate with proof of the years you worked in Russia to collect your government pension from there

I want to be  Ida May Fuller of Ludlow, Vermont. In 1937, 1938 and 1939 she paid a total of $24.75 into the Social Security System. Her first check was for $22.54. After her second check, Fuller already had received more than she contributed over the three-year period. She lived to be 100 and collected a total of $22,888.92-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Security_(United_States)#cite_note-Mink-18
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