I am unable to sleep – I am haunted by the words of my trainer.

Training for my new job started last Monday and i have been waking up at 4:30 am each day to get ready, prepare and drop off Darla and then drive for an hour to Norwalk where my training is.

I understand how hard it is to train and smile at the same faces 8 hours a day while covering multiple topics I have done it for MAXIMUS and other companies. I understand how hard it is to discuss sensitive topics with a variety of people. But guys, I am traumatized.

Today I was told

  • “Some victims like to be abused and just want the abuse part to get over so they can get the gifts. Isn’t that crazy? Ya, they want the gifts!”.
  • Victims of Domestic Violence seek out abusive relationships. – now, mind you – this came up at bullet point 8 where this was listed as a MYTH, but the instructor went on a 20 minute chat bout how women and some men are somehow broken and they look for the relationships filled with abuse. 
  • Women who don’t get education and just stay home to keep house and raise children are asking to be divorced and abused and we can expect to meet those people applying for government assistance.  so, apparently all of my stay at home mom friends are begging for poverty and abuse .
  • I heard a story that the instructor giggled all the way through as he told us about his friend calling from the hospital to say that the wife he was abusing had poured hot and seasoned water on him in the shower – but the man did not press charges and this is the act that ended the cycle of abuse so it was a good thing this couple is now happily married fter the hospitalization of the husband.
  • There is a neighbor who for the past 15 years has washed her families cars each morning. The day she stops washing the cars, she should expect domestic violence because she set up the expectation that she will always wash the car so of course abuse will follow once she starts.
  • It takes two to Tango, the victim is as responsible for the abuse as the abuser
  • Why doesn’t the victim just leave? staying in the relationship makes the abuse okay.

You know, 15 thousand people applied for the job I just took on and about 1% were hired. I was so excited to be hired into this dream job.  But now, now I want to quit.

I was about to mail his supervisor when he saw me typing – to be honest I was going to resign and ended up sending the email to this blog as an earlier posting…so I did not much care about being seen.

As it is, I told another trainer I knew from pst encounters with my employer and he told the supervisor.

My trainer made sure to tell me that on Thursday he gets to write an evaluation about me and I should expect it to be a poor evaluation.

At this moment, 11:12pm, I don’t care. I cannot sleep because i keep hearing his voice and laughter as we discuss this topic. People, I feel sick and am emotionally traumatized! You have been along with me for the ride and I have shared my thoughts and experiences. I have worked with homelessness and substance abuse and domestic violence and child abuse and all manner of ugly human behavior – but I have never had someone paid to tell me that it is the fault of the victim while he laughed and giggled.

I may quit my dream job

Oh dear God. Domestic Violence training is so poorly taught that I may walk out of class.

My instructor went on a 20 minute tangent about how victims seek out abusive behavior.

I am keeping a written list of other troubling remarks such as "it takes two to tango" and "some women want the abuse so they can have the gifts in the honeymoon phase".

All you need to know about the Tap bus card

Do you remember having to have exact change and buying $0.2 cent paper transfers as you rode across town on the bus?

Those days are long gone for any transit system and a new plan is in place. It is called the TAP card because you “tap” it against a big blue button and the smart chip inside it automatically sends information and deducts the balance to your account. Neat-o!

The TAP card replaces your traditional paper passes and premium stamps. You’ll need to purchase a TAP card to continue to get the same reduced-fare discount or standard pass at the rate you’re currently enjoying. In addition to storing passes, a TAP card can be used to store cash value, or you can load both cash value and passes onto your card.

The advantages of using a TAP card instead of cash include the convenience of never having to worry about carrying exact change and the added security of balance protection. You may load cash value onto your TAP card at any of the locations below:

Antelope Valley Transit Authority
42210 6th Street West
Lancaster, CA 93534
(661) 945-9445
City of Huntington Park
6550 Miles Ave.
Huntington Park, CA 90255
Culver City CPOS – City Hall
9770 Culver Blvd.
Culver City, CA 90232
Culver City Transportation Department
4343 Duquesne Avenue
Culver City, CA 90232
Foothill Transit Store – City of Industry
Puente Hills Mall
1600 Azusa Ave.
City of Industry, CA 91748
Foothill Transit Store – Claremont
Claremont TransCenter
200 W. First St.
Claremont, CA 91711
Foothill Transit Store – El Monte
El Monte Bus Station
3501 Santa Anita, 2nd floor
El Monte, CA 91731
Foothill Transit Store – Pomona
Pomona TransCenter
100 W. Commercial Ave.
Pomona, CA 91767
Foothill Transit Store – West Covina
Washington Mutual Building
100 South Vincent Ave., 2nd floor
West Covina, CA 91790
LADOT Transit Store (Los Angeles Mall)
201 N Los Angeles St. #18B
Los Angeles, CA 90012
(213) 808-2273
Long Beach Transit: Transit & Visitor Information Center
130 East First Street
Long Beach, CA 90802
(562) 591-2301
Norwalk Transit System Customer Service
12650 East Imperial Highway
Norwalk, CA 90650
City of Santa Clarita City Hall, 1st Floor Cashier
23920 Valencia Blvd.
Santa Clarita, CA 91355
(661) 294-1287
City of Santa Clarita Transit Maintenance Facility
28250 Constellation
Santa Clarita, CA 91355
(661) 294-1287
Saugus Drugs & Hallmark
27641 Bouquet Canyon Rd
Santa Clarita, CA 91350
(661) 296-3980
Santa Clarita Aquatic Center
20850 Centre Pointe Pkwy
Santa Clarita, CA 91350
(661) 250-3700

You can purchase a pass and have it loaded onto your TAP card at all the usual locations.

Go to ” taptogo.com” and look on the map. Sort by zip code or city.

Buy your Tap Card at Ralphs

Buy your Tap Card at Ralphs

In case you need to drink while someone else drives.

In case you need to drink while someone else drives.

You can use your EBT card to buy the pass with your cash amount at the store or TAP machine, but not at a ticket window.

You can also use a phone to order during a call.  I have called and they were very nice to me. Email:customerservice@taptogo.netPhone:1.866.TAPTOGO
Monday ~ Friday – 8:00 AM to 4:30 PM
Saturday/Sunday – ClosedMailP.O. Box 811310
Los Angeles, CA 90081

The same low fares. The same monthly discounts

Reduced-fare passes are now available to load onto your TAP card!

Whether you’re an existing Senior, Disabled or Student rider, or a new rider who meets program eligibility requirements, now’s the time to move to TAP and take advantage of the card’s built-in advantages, like free balance protection and smart-chip enabled remote fare loading.

With paper passes, stamps and student ID cards no longer being sold, existing reduced-fare pass holders must obtain a TAP card to continue receiving their reduced-fare rate.

Applicant eligibility varies by municipality (e.g. senior discount participation begins at 60, 62, or 65 years depending on the transit system), so be sure to check the specific reduced-fare eligibility requirements for the lines you ride.

Senior TAP ID Card

Seniors 62 years or older (60+ in Santa Clarita Transit District and Pasadena ARTS) qualify for a Senior TAP ID Card. There is no charge for the card itself, but you must supply a full-face photo (1″ X 1-1/4″ or 2” X 2”) along with valid ID showing proof of age (California ID, California Drivers License, passport, or a birth certificate accompanied by any photo ID). You can apply for your Senior TAP ID Card at any Metro or participating Municipal Customer Center locations. Seniors may also mail in copies of the required documentation and a full-face photo to the TAP Service Center, PO Box 811310, Los Angeles, CA, 90081. Get an application online: English | Spanish

LACTOA Disabled TAP ID Card

To obtain your LACTOA Disabled TAP ID Card, you must provide proof of eligibility or a Medicare card. Completed applications, a full-face photo, required documentation and a processing fee can be submitted at any Metro or participating Municipal Customer Center location or mailed to the TAP Reduced Fare Office, One Gateway Plaza, M.S. 99-PL-4, Los Angeles, CA 90012-2952. Get an application online: English | Spanish

College/Vocational TAP ID Card

To qualify for a College/Vocational discount, you must complete the College/Vocational TAP ID application available at select schools, Metro or participating Municipal Customer Center locations or online. Submit the completed application at any Metro or participating Municipal Customer Center location or mail it to the TAP Reduced Fare Office, One Gateway Plaza, MS 99-PL-4, Los Angeles, CA, 90012-2952. Get an application online: English | Spanish

Undergraduate and graduate students must provide proof of enrollment in an accredited school in Los Angeles County for a minimum of 12 units or 12 hours of in-classroom study per week for a minimum of 3 consecutive months. If you are enrolled in a summer program that meets for less than 3 months and/or 1 units, you can still qualify only if you met the eligibility requirements in the preceding spring term.

K-12 Student TAP Card

Student TAP card applications are now available. Once the TAP application is completed and submitted, a student can expect to receive a TAP card in 6-8 weeks. This new TAP card will then replace the student’s existing paper fare card. Students should make sure to apply early for TAP. Get an application online: English |Spanish

Fares & Discounts.

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I lose my phone ALL THE TIME. all. the. time.


This is the coolest idea! As long as I can log into Gmail from your phone or tablet or computer : poof! I can call myself and make my phone ring!

No More digging through trash cans!


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